I just came up with a really simple way to resolve every problem!
Just do this. Think about a recent difficult situation. Now reflect on your response. Did you shut down? Freak out? Suppress your feelings? Let it go?
Here, I suggest that you are ultimately choosing from only FIVE OPTIONS.
In every situation you are either managing your thoughts, changing your behavior, healing, witnessing or waking up. And the choice you make determines whether the problem will resolve or persist. In other words, your choice of the five options determines the outcome.
So, do this: Recall a recent situation and ask yourself:
Option 1. Did you try to manage your thoughts? Did you try to use your logic to replace (or suppress) the troublesome thought. Did you say things like: Things could be worse? or I’ll be fine.
Option 2. Did you decide to change your behaviors. Did you say things like: I will avoid (or control) that situation in the future, or I will try harder next time?
Option 3. Did you do any healing work? Did you delve into your psyche and surface the false beliefs and fears that are causing you to react? Did you do any shadow-work and inner-child work to “heal” and shift your outdated beliefs that are triggering you?
Option 4. Did you witness yourself? In your mind did you step out of your body and be the observer of yourself? From this place could you observe why “you” are feeling and acting this way? Did you realize that “you” has other choices and does not have to feel or act this way?
Option 5. Did you wake up? Did you stand very still and clear your mind of any thoughts? Did you activate a deep sense of centeredness, presence or awake-awareness? Did you resonate a full-body sensation of pure alive awareness? In this STATE did you gain a fresh new perspective? In that STATE could you feel calm and love? Did you see that there is no problem at all or that nothing outside of you can cause you harm?
As you can see, every single day, we can choose how to perceive and respond to every situation. And every time it directly impacts the outcome.
So: Next time something upsets you, look over these FIVE OPTIONS and try out each of them and see what works. Or try all of them. Eventually, you will simply “know” how to respond.
Hopefully that involves waking up (since that’s what my upcoming book: Wake the F Up is about!)
Have fun!
If you want to learn more about me and my books, please visit my website at www.MaureenFitzgerald.com
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